In a pan, heat 2 tbsp ghee. Add 1 cup of green peas and a pinch of salt. Sauté over medium flame until the peas slightly soften. Transfer them to a bowl.
In the same pan, add 2 cups of chopped methi leaves and a pinch of salt. Sauté and then remove into a bowl.
In a blender, combine 2 chopped tomatoes, 1 green chili, 1-inch ginger, 5-6 garlic cloves, and 7-8 soaked cashews. Grind into a smooth paste without adding water. Set aside.
Heat 3 tbsp oil and 1 tbsp ghee in a pan. Add 1 tsp cumin seeds, 1-inch cinnamon, 2-3 cardamom pods, 1 bay leaf, 2 dry red chilies, and a pinch of hing. Sauté the spices.
Add chopped onions and sauté until they turn slightly golden brown.
Reduce the heat, add ½ tsp turmeric powder, 1.5 tbsp Kashmiri red chili powder, 1.5 tbsp coriander powder, 1 tsp cumin powder, and some hot water. Sauté the masala until the oil separates from the sides.
Add the previously prepared tomato paste and salt. Cover and cook the gravy until the oil separates from its sides.
Stir in the green peas and methi leaves. Mix well.
Pour in ¾ cup of hot water and mix gently. Cook the sabzi on low heat for 3-4 minutes.
Add ½ cup of malai, 1 tsp kasoori methi, and ½ tsp garam masala. Mix well.
Turn off the heat and add 1 tsp lemon juice and some chopped coriander leaves. Mix thoroughly.
Serve the Methi Matar Malai with rumali roti and salad.